Five Steps to Streamline Your Life for Fall

shutterstock_72388972While some may say that Spring is the best time of year to do your professional and emotional housecleaning, my favorite time of year to do that is actually right now. There’s something about the impending fall, with its cool withdrawal and turn toward inward focus, that invites contemplation and refinement in my own life.

For that reason, when I returned from my summer vacation this past week, I decided it was time to get organized personally and professionally for the rest of the year.

This was not an easy task, as I realized while I was away that I really needed to tackle some areas of overwhelm that had been preventing me from functioning at my highest level and that needed my attention NOW.

As a result, I spent the better part of Monday working through a five step process to get my life in order for the next four months.

This is a process I work through routinely with my one-on-one coaching clients, and today, I’m offering it to you. It’s seamless, awesome, and effective, and I think you’ll find that it will immediately set you up for success for the remainder of the year.

Here’s five steps to streamline your life down to what really matters this fall. (tweet this)

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I Quit

shutterstock_171747974Yep, you read that headline right, though it might not mean exactly what you think.

And I’ll warn you in advance: this post is something of a manifesto. Stay with me, because it gets good.

Let me explain.

Lately, I’ve been suffering a lot– and I mean A LOT– with the sense that what I do, have, and earn is never enough. Maybe this is familiar to you. Maybe you’ve been there too.

The mantras in my head have gone like this:

I never make enough money. I never have enough time. I am never as far ahead of the game as other people in my field. I am never, never good enough at what I do for my own incredibly high, self-inflicted standards of performance (hello, Type-A). I am never enough for my family, in part because I am never there, because I am always working too hard, because I am never working hard enough to get to where I want to go. I am never enough for my friends, because I never see them, because I am never enough at work. My entire life is never enough. Never, never, never enough.

In other words, I– yes, me, I am saying this out loud– have been telling myself that I– yes, me, the person who should know better– am never enough.

I have been telling myself, on a relentless non-stop feed, that I am never enough.

It’s not pretty, but it’s the truth.

Maybe this is familiar to you, too.

I began to think about this issue in detail a few weeks ago, and to do some work to try to shift it, but I wasn’t having much luck. Somewhere, I had a vague sense that it had something to do with my interactions on social media, but I wasn’t sure exactly how.

What I did know, though, was that social media wasn’t helping. Every day on social media, I saw entrepreneurs, coaches and pretty much everyone in the self-improvement field pretending– you read that right, too– that they had it all figured out. Secretly, over time, I’d come to hate many of them, or roll my eyes at their posts, or worry about the impact they were having on their readers.

And yet, despite the fact that I knew that their lives were carefully curated online and their reporting of their experiences was extremely limited in the context of what was REALLY going on for many of them (trust me, I know some gory details), I nonetheless allowed myself to become ragingly green with envy over what I saw of their lives through this lens.

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Lonely? Four Ways to Get Connected (and not on Facebook)

shutterstock_167533097Every once in a while, I like to sit back and consider whether there are any consistent challenges with which I’m being approached by new clients. There’s often a lot for me to learn from patterns in my practice over time.

This spring, without question, the number one issue faced by every new client in my coaching practice has been a deep sense of loneliness, alienation, and an absence of community.

If you think about it, that’s pretty extraordinary given the times we live in.

We are all on Facebook virtually non-stop, sharing our lives in images on Instagram, and updating our latest thoughts every few minutes on Twitter.

For most of us, there are very few aspects of our lives that aren’t shared with everyone we know, and many people we don’t, online.

And yet, many of us feel more lonely than ever before.

Why?

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So Easy, A Four Year Old Can Do It

shoesSo, a few months back, a friend of mine posted a video of herself and her young daughter on Facebook.

In the video, she was trying to get her daughter to put on shoes to leave the house. The daughter was refusing, and her mom needed to get to work at her yoga studio.

After some calm, observant discussion back and forth, and an agreement that once they got to the studio, the daughter could have something she desired, my friend said something magical.

She said: “what if I told you that putting on your shoes right now was non-negotiable?”

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