In my private coaching work, I’m often confronted by clients who, when faced with a major decision like a job change, a relocation, or even a marriage proposal, freeze like a deer in the headlights.
I get this. I’ve been there myself.
Many of us worry that we will make the wrong decision, and that the consequences will then be too high.
Others of us have past experience with making choices that didn’t work out, and as a result now don’t trust ourselves to make the right one.
So how do you overcome the paralysis of a tough decision when the right answer isn’t immediately obvious? Here’s the advice I give to my clients all the time.
Today is the first day of the second quarter of 2015. That means it’s time to talk about one of my favorite topics: planning.
Why? Well, the answer has something to do with practicality.
Right around January 1, we’re all always hopped up on the start of a new year, the hope of succeeding at our New Year’s Resolutions, and the gift of annual inspiration that comes along for the ride.
By April 1, however, many of those New Year’s Resolutions may have tanked, our financial planning may have gotten a little hinky, and we’ve faced some unexpected challenges that life always brings.
That’s why I love retackling my goals at the start of the second quarter. It’s a more practical, grounded time to look at your goals, and simultaneously a great time for growth– the perfect time to set a revised and detailed plan for the upcoming 3, 6 and 9 months.
As a result, for the past week, I’ve been engaged in some serious updated planning for the next quarter and beyond. Here’s the steps I’ve taken that you too can follow to complete an ideal quarterly review.
We all have days where bad shizz goes down, where negative thought patterns get the best of us, where we can become convinced that no matter what we do, nothing good can come of what’s coming next.
I had one of those days this week. Yes, it’s true, even those of us in the personal development space are not immune.
I also get clients coming in the door to my coaching practice all the time who have been in that place for weeks or months– and sometimes, sadly, years.
I see so much of this that I’ve coined a term to refer to the pattern. I call it the dreaded “failure spiral.”
And I’ve got a few strong practices for dealing with a failure spiral that work very quickly if applied well.
If you find yourself in a place where you think you’re a failure, where nothing good is coming to you, and where nothing is ever going to change, here’s the exit route.
When I speak at events for women executives, there is one type of question that I get asked more often than any other:
“What do I do if I feel like a fraud on the job?”
“Like I’m not qualified or I don’t know enough?”
“Like someone will eventually find out that I don’t know what I’m doing?”
In the coaching community, we call this state of mind “the imposter complex,” and it’s rampant. Virtually every woman executive I work with experiences it. Even I had it for a while back in the day.