How to Escape a Failure Spiral

shutterstock_177003773We all have days where bad shizz goes down, where negative thought patterns get the best of us, where we can become convinced that no matter what we do, nothing good can come of what’s coming next.

I had one of those days this week. Yes, it’s true, even those of us in the personal development space are not immune.

I also get clients coming in the door to my coaching practice all the time who have been in that place for weeks or months– and sometimes, sadly, years.

I see so much of this that I’ve coined a term to refer to the pattern. I call it the dreaded “failure spiral.”

And I’ve got a few strong practices for dealing with a failure spiral that work very quickly if applied well.

If you find yourself in a place where you think you’re a failure, where nothing good is coming to you, and where nothing is ever going to change, here’s the exit route.

Read on.

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Five Reasons Why Women Should Negotiate Their Salaries, Every Single Time

shutterstock_161265050Today, I’m writing a post largely directed toward women executives, though I am a strong believer that everyone needs to negotiate the terms of their employment in order to have the best working experience possible.

However, you’ve probably heard the troubling statistics that show that as few as 7% of women executives negotiate their salaries. That number needs to change.

Effectively negotiating our salaries is not only critical to the career trajectories of women executives, but it also gets us significant gains now and over the long haul– and not just financial ones.

Here’s five reasons why you should always negotiate your salary, whether you’re at the start of your career or a seasoned executive.

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How to Ride the Waves of Success, aka How to Drop the “Other Shoe” Phenomenon

shutterstock_216656491So maybe you’ve had this experience from time to time:

You had a big vision.

You’ve put in a lot of effort.

You’ve struggled and you’ve figured things out and you’ve overcome obstacles.

And then, in what seems like a sudden moment, everything clicks into place.

One after another, like dominos, things that once stood in your way begin to tumble.

You’ve got the wind at your back.

You feel supported everywhere.

Money is flowing.

And you KNOW you’re going to succeed– maybe even beyond your wildest dreams.

It’s a great place to be, right?

So why, then, do so many of us take that moment as the moment to start wondering when the other shoe is going to drop?

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Are You Willing?

shutterstock_165171191In the past couple of weeks, I’ve been confronted quite a bit by the discomfort of change.

I’m not talking bad change. I’m talking good change.

Change toward more security, more comfort, more income, more ease. Change directly toward a vision of what I want my life to be.

You’d think that I’d be overjoyed and completely open to this shift, right?

You’d be wrong.

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