Got Faith?

shutterstock_123836719For years, people have been telling me that a big part of generating abundance in life is having faith that the Universe is on your side, that all is happening as it should, and that all will arrive in its time.

Without a doubt, that’s true.

However, if you’re like me, you tend to worry a little– scratch that, a lot– that maybe things don’t actually work that way, and panic is a better option. (LOL.)

I’ve even been known to think that if I don’t worry, I won’t be prepared for what’s coming next.

A funny thing has happened to me over the last few months, however: I’ve stepped into a place of faith.

No, I don’t mean that in the religious sense.

I mean it in the sense of trusting that “all is working out for the best.”

I mean it in the sense of having patience that all I want is on its way to me.

I mean it in the sense that I can actually, to a really substantial degree, let go of worry.

So how did I get here?

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Become the Conqueror of Your Own Life

empire_0The last few weeks have been a time of great transition in my own life and the lives of many of my clients.

In the last week alone, I had a long-time working relationship unexpectedly come to an end, my family began preparing to move, my daughter turned three, and my family faced a number of personal challenges at home.

There are times when everything seems up in the air, in crisis, and demanding of our attention, and this is one of them.

My process for dealing with this past week has involved some tears, a fair amount of wine, and a bit of zoning out in front of the TV– including and especially the new TV show Empire– before beginning to ground myself in the tenets by which I live my life.

But before I get to those, a little interlude on Empire.

In a recent episode, one of the sons who is an heir to the show’s music dynasty came out of the closet, after a huge amount of conflict with his father.

As a way of recovering and honoring that moment, he then recorded a beautiful duet with another artist about what it takes to overcome adversity and rise.

It was a powerful moment that left me in tears the first time I saw it, and the song that has been on replay non-stop on my iPhone ever since.

The title of that song? Conqueror.

And as you’ll note below, I’m embedding the clip of that moment in today’s post as a powerful testament to what it takes to rise in the face of failure, and continue onward in the face of change.

Through my own recent transitions, the song has inspired me to ask of myself and of others in recent days:

What does it mean to be the Conqueror of your own life?

Here’s what it means to me.

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How to Escape a Failure Spiral

shutterstock_177003773We all have days where bad shizz goes down, where negative thought patterns get the best of us, where we can become convinced that no matter what we do, nothing good can come of what’s coming next.

I had one of those days this week. Yes, it’s true, even those of us in the personal development space are not immune.

I also get clients coming in the door to my coaching practice all the time who have been in that place for weeks or months– and sometimes, sadly, years.

I see so much of this that I’ve coined a term to refer to the pattern. I call it the dreaded “failure spiral.”

And I’ve got a few strong practices for dealing with a failure spiral that work very quickly if applied well.

If you find yourself in a place where you think you’re a failure, where nothing good is coming to you, and where nothing is ever going to change, here’s the exit route.

Read on.

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You Are Not a Fraud

shutterstock_3272515When I speak at events for women executives, there is one type of question that I get asked more often than any other:

“What do I do if I feel like a fraud on the job?”

“Like I’m not qualified or I don’t know enough?”

“Like someone will eventually find out that I don’t know what I’m doing?”

In the coaching community, we call this state of mind “the imposter complex,” and it’s rampant. Virtually every woman executive I work with experiences it. Even I had it for a while back in the day.

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