It’s that time of year again in NYC– when everyone and everything starts to get dreary, gray and cold. Today we’re dealing with a post-blizzard slump and it’s freezing!
No matter how much Vitamin D I imbibe or how much I commit to making this year different from the last, there’s always a period of time in this January/February segment of each year where I start to feel a little burnt out.
And that’s nothing compared to most of my clients, who tend to be truly exhausted in the post-holiday period. If you’ve found yourself dying to curl up under a blanket for a two-day nap, or pissed off and crying in your office (or, for that matter, in your coaching session), trust me, you’re not alone.
So, this week, I’m sharing my top five strategies for combatting seasonal burnout. Here they are. (more…)
Those of you who are my clients know that I have been raving since late last year about a book written by Danielle LaPorte called The Desire Map. I’ve fallen so much in love with this book that I’ve started sending it out as gifts to my clients.
What, you may ask, does Desire have to do with your career? Just about everything, it turns out.
In her book, Danielle LaPorte posits that every goal that we set, every marker we aim to check off our to-do list, and every life plan we devise, has to do with reaching the feeling that we think we will have when we get there. You want to go to law school so you will feel Admired by your parents, even if you don’t really want to be a lawyer. You want to get promoted to VP so you will feel Powerful, even if you’re already working too hard as it is. You want to get married so you will feel Nurtured, even though you’re not nurturing yourself on a daily basis with self-love and self-care.
The conclusion Danielle LaPorte reaches from this state of affairs is obvious: we’ve got our goal setting all ass-backwards. We’re trying to get what we desire from the outside in, rather than making choices that get us to what we want to feel from the inside out.
In other words, identify how you most want to feel– what LaPorte calls Core Desired Feelings– and make your choices from that place, and you’ll be infinitely happier in the long run because you’ll feel how you want to feel from the start.
Here’s how this looks in practice: (more…)
As we approach 2014, I’ve started doing my annual review of where things are and where things are going for me, both personally and professionally. Those of you who have worked with me know that I’ve been working with annual Vision Statements for many years now. This year, however, I’m working with a whole new system– one that I will be discussing further in an upcoming newsletter– which I have found to be revolutionary. I think you’ll find it a useful tool as you progress into 2014 as well, so stay tuned.
As a part of my annual review process, I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting on one of my big bugaboos of the year which is shared by many of my clients: poverty mentality, a.k.a. the limiting belief that I will never have all that I want in life, and that there’s just not enough to go around.
The way that this has manifested itself for me recently is that I’ve been focusing on things that I really, really want but don’t have, and then obsessing about the lack. (more…)